Unfortunately one of the things that we have developed in communication and that I do not consider to be entirely good is to stop saying no when we really do not want something for fear, fear of what they will say, what they will think, they will think that I am bitter or that I only like boring things, we think that if we say no they will stop inviting us, they will insinuate that we are rude or that we do not love the people who are making us an invitation, Let us learn to deny things to others not because we are selfish with them, on the contrary, to stop being selfish with ourselves, to accept that not everything should be done for them and to teach them that there are days when we definitely do not want to do it for them.
Let's thank them for their intentions, their invitations and let's say:
Thank you, but I don't want to do it now:
Thank you, but now I don't want to
Thank you, but I don't feel well.
Thank you, maybe another day.
I can't, but thank you for taking me into account.
I can't, but thank you for asking.
I can't, but thank you for your invitation.
Sorry, but not this time.
Sorry, but some other time.
I'm not feeling well, but thank you.
It's not pleasant for me, but thank you.
I'd love to come, but I'm not available.
I'd like to, but I'm not feeling well, another day?
I'm too busy, shall we postpone?
It's an amazing idea, but I can't, then?
Today is not a good day, but thank you.
It's no obligation for us to be apologizing for what we don't want and don't feel comfortable with, but just a small way to thank the good intentions of others for wanting to have a good time with us if that's really the case.
Thank you for being here.
I love you.